Legal advice: I never thought I’d fall out with my cousin over a septic tank, what can I do?

We always assumed we had a right of way to the septic tank but now it’s been fenced off and our cousin is suggesting we move it on to our site. How do we deal with this amicably?

The septic tank is about 150 yards from the house in a field. Photo: Getty

Mary Frances Fahy

Query: Dear Mary Frances, we inherited a house in the country a few years ago, which we use as a holiday home, with various family members spending time there. Our late aunt left it to us — it was given to her late husband by his parents, with his brother inheriting the rest of the farm. The farm is now farmed by a nephew.

The house site is part of our cousins’ land and we never had any issues with them. As I said, we visit a few times a year, mainly to keep the house lived in.